the Adventures & Treasure of a Stucknaut / SNB117

INTRO -

• In this episode, I discuss the adventures and the treasure of being a Stucknaut!

• My name is Justin Sunseri.

• I’m a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist that thinks the world needs a new paradigm for mental health.

• Welcome to Stuck Not Broken.

DISCLAIMERS -

But before I get into things -put yourself first. I keep every episode as safe as I can, but just by the nature of the topics, you may experience some stuff come up. Take a break if you need to.

This podcast is not therapy, nor intended to be a replacement for therapy.

TOPIC - WHAT IS A STUCKNAUT?

• It’s you. It’s me. It’s the audience of the Stuck Not Broken podcast.

• It’s those that are interested in PVT and the somatic elements of being human.

• Last episode was about the general beliefs of being a Stucknaut.

TOPIC - THE INTERNAL WORLD

• Astronauts - space

• Argonauts - sea

• Stucknauts - inner world of themselves

  • How their inner world is impacted by external factors, present and past

  • Every Stucknaut exploration is different than others'

  • Common human experiences, sure

    • Learn and share with each other and build

  • In essence, exploring safety and danger, exploring stuck ANS states

    • From past events or lack of events

    • From lack of safety development

  • Lots of peril that may reinforce the stuck state

    • Resulting in flight, fight, shutdown or freeze possibly

    • Past, flashbacks, stuck autonomic states

• Some known, some not

  • Good chance there is hidden stuff

  • Good chance there is unknown safety

    • Can be vulnerable and scare someone

• Memories that will be encountered -

  • Episodic

    • Certain events

  • Emotional

    • Present moment that brings up a past event

    • Mammal-universal: surprise, fear, disgust, sadness, joy and curiosity, excitement, gladness and triumph

  • Procedural

    • Especially emergency responses that were thwarted

    • Bracing, contracting, retracting, fighting, fleeing, freezing, setting and maintaining boundaries

    • Organismic

      • Approach or avoid, attraction or repulsion

TOPIC - HOW THE INTERNAL & EXTERNAL CONNECT

• Affect each other

  • People, environment affect internal and vise versa

  • Safe environment means we can go inside

• Neuroception is the process of this

  • Info from the outside

  • State shift and then info to the outside

• We do the inner work to affect the outer world

  • Improve relationships

  • Improve work and school

  • Meet goals

• The Stucknaut is exploring the inner world, but aware of the external and internal

TOPIC -the TREASURE OF A STUCKNAUT

• Not in this for the riches

• Goal is safety, connection, inner peace, calm, connection

• Might look different for all of us individually

  • Shared experiences, shared similarity

• Change for self

  • Change for family

    • Change for community

  • Inner world first, then the external

• Individual autonomy in a co-regulative and shared communal world

  • Finding the boundary of themselves and others

• Co-regulation is helpful and maybe a tool to use in a sense, though we don’t control that and we should not be compelling that imo

  • Work on the internal to become the co-regulator for others

  • Can’t compel others to be what we need

    • That’s not the goal

  • Goal is to be for ourselves what we need

THANKS SO MUCH FOR LISTENING!

I hope you’ve learned something new to help you climb your polyvagal ladder.

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Trauma and Memory book - https://amzn.to/3jGI64h

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

This week’s Patreon episode - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

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